arena shooters are incredibly asocial as a genre
if you want to introduce your non-arena shooter playing mates to arena shooters, they kind of have to accept that they're going to get curbstomped by either you or by other random people in servers and who wants to spend their free time chain-dying on deck 16 for hours every day for months until they get good if y'all can go play a team game where you can at least cooperate