Some background
Both of us are sophomores in high school
He's talented as fuck, easily the most caring person I know outside of my family
Here's the problem
I noticed some problems with him recently, he's just seemed really unattached and seems way less happy than he used to
I talked to him and he's really fucked up now for some reason, and I'm afraid he's going to snap and hurt himself or someone else.
He refuses to communicate this with his parents or try to get help, because, in his words, "I'm not fixable, so why does it matter?"
How would I communicate this to someone who can help him out?
Some background
Both of us are sophomores in high school
He's talented as fuck, easily the most caring person I know outside of my family
Here's the problem
I noticed some problems with him recently, he's just seemed really unattached and seems way less happy than he used to
I talked to him and he's really fucked up now for some reason, and I'm afraid he's going to snap and hurt himself or someone else.
He refuses to communicate this with his parents or try to get help, because, in his words, "I'm not fixable, so why does it matter?"
How would I communicate this to someone who can help him out?
the same way you typed this thread but with your mouth words
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the same way you typed this thread but with your mouth words
edit: wait are you asking who to talk to
THEBILLDOZERthe same way you typed this thread but with your mouth words
edit: wait are you asking who to talk to
yes, i've been trying to convince him to get help for a good 3 weeks
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yes, i've been trying to convince him to get help for a good 3 weeks
Tell a counselor and his parents. Then maybe just continue in trying to convince him that he is able to be fixed and people close to him want to help.
Whatever you do, just do it ASAP. The longer it takes, the higher the risk of a bad outcome.
Best of luck to you and your friend.
Tell a counselor and his parents. Then maybe just continue in trying to convince him that he is able to be fixed and people close to him want to help.
Whatever you do, just do it ASAP. The longer it takes, the higher the risk of a bad outcome.
Best of luck to you and your friend.
tell someone to knock on their door
sneak into his house and go to reachout.com and go to a live chat
tell someone to knock on their door
sneak into his house and go to reachout.com and go to a live chat
Your friend is lucky to have a friend like you, very caring, I'm sure with your help things will turn out better. I don't have experience so I don't want to answer because I'd only be guessing, but just know you're a good person and a good friend. Keep doing you :)
Your friend is lucky to have a friend like you, very caring, I'm sure with your help things will turn out better. I don't have experience so I don't want to answer because I'd only be guessing, but just know you're a good person and a good friend. Keep doing you :)
If you are his close friend it might be easier for him to talk to you than his parents, if he's depressed he might feel much like it's insurmountable. Most likely he can be helped, but not knowing what he's dealing with, it's hard to help much further and professional help would be more ideal.
You could try more to have him talk about it, he says it isn't fixable, but he can't know whether it can be fixed or not if he doesn't talk anything about it, he's lucky to have you care about him, try to get him talk, it will most likely make him feel better already, people tend to cause greater harm to themselves by keeping the things that bother them circling in their heads.
If you are his close friend it might be easier for him to talk to you than his parents, if he's depressed he might feel much like it's insurmountable. Most likely he can be helped, but not knowing what he's dealing with, it's hard to help much further and professional help would be more ideal.
You could try more to have him talk about it, he says it isn't fixable, but he can't know whether it can be fixed or not if he doesn't talk anything about it, he's lucky to have you care about him, try to get him talk, it will most likely make him feel better already, people tend to cause greater harm to themselves by keeping the things that bother them circling in their heads.
What exactly does he think can't be fixed(don't answer that)? Your like sixteen at best? Maybe younger. Trust me I've had friends who have gone through this as well. I have my suspicions about what he thinks "can't be fixed" and honestly nothing is broken to begin with. I won't begin to assume his situation based off your commentary, but assure him that everything is fine and nothing needs "fixing".
I learned the hard way that sometimes you just can't be the strength your friends need. This might be hard to hear, but you might just need to let him work this out on his own. If he was going to hurt himself, you would be the last person to know. I've had more than a few of my friends kill themselves, and trust me when I say that I had no idea they were even depressed.
The honest truth is that you might need to take a step back and not let the problems of your friends affect you as much, because honestly that can be just as dangerous as not even caring at all. Your heart is in the right place, and as long as you do right by that you'll always be happy. So follow your heart.
What exactly does he think can't be fixed(don't answer that)? Your like sixteen at best? Maybe younger. Trust me I've had friends who have gone through this as well. I have my suspicions about what he thinks "can't be fixed" and honestly nothing is broken to begin with. I won't begin to assume his situation based off your commentary, but assure him that everything is fine and nothing needs "fixing".
I learned the hard way that sometimes you just can't be the strength your friends need. This might be hard to hear, but you might just need to let him work this out on his own. If he was going to hurt himself, you would be the last person to know. I've had more than a few of my friends kill themselves, and trust me when I say that I had no idea they were even depressed.
The honest truth is that you might need to take a step back and not let the problems of your friends affect you as much, because honestly that can be just as dangerous as not even caring at all. Your heart is in the right place, and as long as you do right by that you'll always be happy. So follow your heart.