So I'm 15 years old right now and back in April of this year, my parents (mom really) thought it would be best to part ways. It was fine the last 2 weeks of April, but in may it escalated really high, my mom was angry, yelling, and my dad was taking time to move out and find a house. my dad moved out in June and now we have a really weird schedule that's not final until my parents can finally agree on one. my dad wants 50% for both parents, but my mom wants most to full custody of me and my sister.
Its kinda hard to avoid it, since both parents are literally at war against each other and would do anything to get what they want, and I'm just asking for advice because this is all weird. To make it even weirder, my mom already found a boyfriend and I don't want anything to do with him for a while if at all, and I'm not allowed to see him until the divorce is final.
Honestly if you can help my horrid situation that'd be great.
Its kinda hard to avoid it, since both parents are literally at war against each other and would do anything to get what they want, and I'm just asking for advice because this is all weird. To make it even weirder, my mom already found a boyfriend and I don't want anything to do with him for a while if at all, and I'm not allowed to see him until the divorce is final.
Honestly if you can help my horrid situation that'd be great.
Absolute honesty. Tell your parents how you feel about everything. Sit them down and tell them how upset you are about how they're acting. Tell your mom you're not ready to be around her boyfriend, explain that you don't want him to be a part of your family yet.
I was fairly lucky with my parent's divorce, it was pretty amicable but that doesnt mean I wasnt upset. My brother and I were open about our issues and our parents tried to compromise.
Stay strong bud, things might suck for a while but it's probably for the best. Look at your parent's failed relationship and try to learn from it.
I was fairly lucky with my parent's divorce, it was pretty amicable but that doesnt mean I wasnt upset. My brother and I were open about our issues and our parents tried to compromise.
Stay strong bud, things might suck for a while but it's probably for the best. Look at your parent's failed relationship and try to learn from it.
You'll get used to it. My mom and Dad divorced when I was around 8 so i didn't really understand much about it. Just remember to always love both of your parents equally. Between them they both love you and will still be there to support you.(ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS) You just have to make sure you spend enough time between them equally.You'll be alright it's just a matter of adjusting and living with it until you become use to it. It sucks but you know shit happens, hope this helped you dude.
Damn, I thought this thread was gonna be about an old-timer TF2 player who had gotten married and is now regretting it. I was gonna come in here and tell him what an idiot he was, but now I'm just sad.
Don't drift away from one parent because the other one is softer on you. My mom never pushed me and I stopped talking to my dad so it's been like 3 years since I've seen him :(
PokemonAdventureDamn, I thought this thread was gonna be about an old-timer TF2 player who had gotten married and is now regretting it. I was gonna come in here and tell him what an idiot he was, but now I'm just sad.
Now we get to call you the idiot.
Now we get to call you the idiot.
I appreciate the advice, and yes I will love both parents equally, and I have told them that countless times.
atidereI appreciate the advice, and yes I will love both parents equally, and I have told them that countless times.
Remember family first don't let life take you away from either of them.
Remember family first don't let life take you away from either of them.
While your folks will probably be at odds with each other for a long while, you're definitely old enough that you should have considerable say in where you spend your time. If your folks are in a position where they can still live in the same area, and you can make it to school when staying at either place then there's honestly no reason why you shouldn't be able to split time. Definitely make the effort to have conversations about what is important to YOU even if they are awkward/difficult. If you feel like it would be better for you to spend more time in one household over the other, try to present clear reasoning why it's important to you. I don't know how old your sister is, but if you think she's up for it, talk to her as well.
My parents divorced so long ago I can't even remember, but I do remember splitting a buncha time with more spent at my dad's place (by request) during the school year. It was nice to have the stability of schedule during school, but it wasn't essential.
My parents divorced so long ago I can't even remember, but I do remember splitting a buncha time with more spent at my dad's place (by request) during the school year. It was nice to have the stability of schedule during school, but it wasn't essential.
zephyrAbsolute honesty. Tell your parents how you feel about everything. Sit them down and tell them how upset you are about how they're acting. Tell your mom you're not ready to be around her boyfriend, explain that you don't want him to be a part of your family yet.
I was fairly lucky with my parent's divorce, it was pretty amicable but that doesnt mean I wasnt upset. My brother and I were open about our issues and our parents tried to compromise.
Stay strong bud, things might suck for a while but it's probably for the best. Look at your parent's failed relationship and try to learn from it.
This is really good advice, make sure they know what YOU want. Trust me, even the worst parents juat want their kids to be happy and this is coming from me. My dad was an angry drunk and being sober didnt really improve his mood, but deep down i think he felt like he was doing what he did so that when i grew up i was tough. Just tell your paents what you want and dont sugar coat it...put it all on the table for them dude and it will get better. Add me if you wanna talk, im all ears.
I was fairly lucky with my parent's divorce, it was pretty amicable but that doesnt mean I wasnt upset. My brother and I were open about our issues and our parents tried to compromise.
Stay strong bud, things might suck for a while but it's probably for the best. Look at your parent's failed relationship and try to learn from it.[/quote]
This is really good advice, make sure they know what YOU want. Trust me, even the worst parents juat want their kids to be happy and this is coming from me. My dad was an angry drunk and being sober didnt really improve his mood, but deep down i think he felt like he was doing what he did so that when i grew up i was tough. Just tell your paents what you want and dont sugar coat it...put it all on the table for them dude and it will get better. Add me if you wanna talk, im all ears.