Hey man, hope you're doing alright. There's no cut and dry answer for this type of thing, at some point the only way to make a change is active effort that starts with you. You have to want it and be good enough to yourself to stick with it and not let yourself slump into familiar habits. Try structuring your schedule and and really pushing yourself to stick to it until you develop a routine, such as when you sleep or make a point to go outside each day. I echo what others said in here regarding intramural sports being the best type of social club when you're not in school, I know I ended up trying a few before settling on krav maga but I know a lot of folks try ultimate frisbee or hiking for easy entry. The biggest thing is picking something with a relatively set schedule where you can expect to see the same social group each time, rather than something you have to push yourself to do on your own time (i.e. starting a gym routine, which is solid for structure but not so much socially). Do you play any instruments? Community music groups or even taking lessons are something else that can be fun. What about bar trivia, board game groups, or perhaps hobby groups? For me personally, I had to scale away from TF2 in order to truly be able to invest myself in other things, as the scene/grind to get better were hard for me to separate from and balance while attempting to do other parts of my life. Not everyone is like that of course, since you can absolutely balance both aspects of your life if you're disciplined. Just know that others have been in your shoes before and you're definitely not alone. Best of luck, you got this.