amperestop being offended in behalf of someone else
This is such a nothing argument.
There are, in fact, people belonging to marginalized groups who have expressed wanting those with privilege to speak up against slurs n shit, because many marginalized people are exhausted by having to do it all themselves. Of course, there are some belonging to marginalized groups who say they don't care, or to stfu, but they don't speak for their entire community. At a certain point you have to decide if it's more important to you that some guy who doesn't give a shit continues to be comfortable with the status quo, or that people who are asking to not be hurt anymore are heard and hurt less.
To the best of my ability, I don't say offensive shit in public. But I also have the ability to know my audience, so in private settings with friends who commiserate on queerness or neurodivergencies, I might say offcolor things.
Honestly, this shit really isn't that hard. It's really not hard to care about others a little bit, and not act like an unfiltered freak with no object permanence who forgets there's human beings on the other end.