welcome to the grind my nigga, enjoy the stay

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pursue your goals, you will get the hang of it. i know it.

you're right. i haven't thought too hard about the importance of a car outside of getting to school and work. people always tell me to get a car lol. i will definitely keep that in mind. atm, i take BART (a subway-like transportation system that many people take in northern california. it's very convenient). the thing that gets me excited about a car is the ability to blast my drum n bass and be free. i actually look forward to that.

pretty much everyone goes through a stage like this. I think it's just as simple as getting yourself motivated, if you're stuck and depressed then something should change, take initiative, this is a huge part of growing up and gaining independence :D

but seriously, just take everything day by day

I'm pretty sure no one likes work so thats not a problem, i cant really relate to the fact that you dont care about money, because everything in my life revolves around making/spending money and tryin to find a comfortable balance

you have no motivation, along with the 99% of all college students, dont worry about not having goals, you say you gonna transfer to a better school, so do well in cc, transfer, graduate, and do the stuff you like (i guess thats a goal)

create small goals that may lead to something better for you in the long run. zephyr has it right, its about motivating yourself on what you want out of your life.

i don't really care about material. i'm happy with the way i look (i think i look good although there are people who might disagree haha), i'm happy with material things that i have. i think i just want a really nice car with a nice stereo. i can't figure out what else i'd do with money. all i really spend money on is food and occasionally alcohol and weed. i rarely do the latter two nowadays. i want a car.

yes! i want a car! this is one of the few things i'm very certain about atm. i just have trouble figuring out why i still go on with doing what i do. i can still do it, but i feel like i really want a reason. i was hoping some people would share their stories because i might be thinking about this type of stuff with an attitude that isn't working for me.

maybe you can spend money on better pc equipment? i guess that'd be pointless if you don't really play a whole lot, but you can get some good out of it anyway for when you do play.

a car works too. take your friends to buffalo wild wings if there's one near you. that place is always fun to eat at. take vacations whenever you can (when you have a car) that aren't like super expensive but can provide a good time. i mean there's a whole other part of this world besides the state you live in and the states connected to yours. visit it when you have the free time. i've personally never really travelled anywhere, but i have friends and former friends who have been all over the world and say that it's the greatest time they've ever had.

these might not really be goals per se, but just more or less things you can do that up your life with the money you don't really seem to want to use.

I'm kinda in that state right now. Except I dropped out of school and just working my ass off and living day by day. Just kick back and enjoy things in life.

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that's great that your appreciative of what you have, and trust me once you have a nice car you'll start caring about money and if your like me, slowly dump all of it into your ride, this is a good thing tho as cars are a great hobby

good luck getting your car vile :D,

haha, i understand what you mean vile i sort of have the same situation :\ i don't have a job being that i'm younger then you but making a goal like getting a car would give you a reason to work hard for your pay check, sometimes my parents are annoyed at my lack of work ethic but the thing is i don't really care what they think because if you go through life trying to impress or even gain the approval of anyone but yourself and possibly that special somebody then you will be very unhappy and it'll feel like you don't care about much.
i used to care a lot about things but now i don't and why is my business but when i think about it there is no reason to impress people who think you aren't doing well because honestly they are downers most of the time and like to pass off the blame of being a failure onto someone who is doing great!

also, community college is nothing to be ashamed of there are some great people who graduate from them and do very well for themselves.

that is not a bad idea at all. i never really think or talk about cars because i dont know shit about them. a car sounds nice right now.

thanks! i dont want to blog on tftv or anything but ill take pictures of it and everything when i do lol.

I wouldn't say to get a car if it isn't a necessity, or if at the moment it wouldn't benefit you the most. Still, it's a good goal.

My dad is a barber, and he gets a lot of young men in his shop that don't know what to do with themselves. His advice to them is to figure out what kind of car they want to drive, how many vacations they want to take in a year, what kind of house they want to live in and/or where, and how much they want to make per year. Then, figure out how much money you would need for all of those things, and find out what jobs would allow you to have that kind of lifestyle. Shoot for one of them.

I would say the motivation is where you want to be later on in life: having a good time, or scraping by?

It's more tolerable if you schedule your time and stick to it, so that you get important things done but still allow yourself recreation and relaxation.

There's nothing particularly wrong with not having any goals in life, especially at 19. Most of the super-motivated 19 year olds that I have met have had their identity chosen for them by parents, religious leaders, etc. I cry for them a little bit because they're doing "what's expected of them," e.g., "I'm going to be a doctor because my mom is a doctor and so was my grandpa." However, I think it's a far better decision to find that which excites you. Community college is as good a place as any to try and figure that out.

I would suggest taking pride in whatever it is you're doing. If you're doing work that you are proud of you will feel more motivated. It's easy to coast. Don't do it. Thoreau said "[t]he mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation." If you can avoid doing that then, I think, you'll be well ahead of your peers.

19? And you like drum and bass? Party time :)

I was just getting heavily into raving at that age, that was a spectacular couple of years. I suggest you party like it's 1999 because you'll be old soon :(

And honestly, there is no point to life other than to just enjoy it.

dude you dont need a nice car to have a good system. all you need is this

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i'm not looking to impress anyone. i just think im in a decent position and i don't know what to make out of it. community college just isn't a very inspiring environment.

nice! i occasionally go to underground dnb raves lol. it's a shame that NONE of my friends like dnb.

Try to think of some long-term goals as well, like what kind of job you want, what kind of lifestyle, etc. Your goals don't necessarily need to be materialistic, although that is motivating for a lot of people. But bear in mind that choosing a career path isn't always just about income (or at least it shouldn't be imo); some jobs allow for a lot more autonomy, creativity, contribution to society, etc. than others. Once you have long-term goals you can break them down into short-team goals.

I felt like you did for a while, and figuring out what I want to do in life really helped me focus on what I need to be doing now.

honestly, i always imagined my future self as one of those asians with a really nice car.

the problem for me is that I don't know what I want long-term

and all my short term goals I usually achieve with ease and they seem to have little reward ( and I'm not making cheapo goals either like taking the trash out

Don't restrain yourself to saving up for a car, remember that public transportation exists in metropolitan areas (even if it is shit in the US). Even if it meant relocating to a new area, you could still end up saving a lot of money. An unlimited rail/bus pass will always be cheaper than owning a car. Plus, you'd have the resources of a big city at your disposal.

I'm not sure if anyone has already mentioned this but one thing i have recently learned in my Junior Year of high school is that sometimes you need to do what you love. In my position, I love to make movies, and I'm really interested in Film. My parents told me i wouldn't go anywhere in life doing that but thats not the point of it. I want to pursue it because I love to do it and that's what matters.

I guess what im trying to say is that sometimes you need to do things for yourself instead of for others. I can't jump to the conclusion that your parents are forcing you to do anything or not forcing you to do anything but you might want to think about it.

Hope this helps :)

lol the guy's questioning what to do with his life and you guys are talking about buying a car

I've never had real life long "goals" and doubt I ever will. I've just had a series of obstacles in front of me that I tore through. My life has mainly been about having fun. So I'm proof that life long goals aren't required, just do what you enjoy because you only get this chance to live but once and then there is nothing...

So I personally lived it up, I did and tried everything I saw or could think of and by the time I was 26-27 I was ready to settle down and start a family. Now I have a dream house, awesome family (wife and 2 kids) of my own and life is pretty darn good. Sure, life has too much overhead but as long as you get your responsibilities taken care of things shouldn't be too hard.

well, it's a start at least. i need to go exploring anyway.

I'd say what you are going through is pretty normal. I had no idea what i wanted to do with my life when i was 19. I am 27 and i've done a lot of different things already, some i liked, some things sucked.

The most important thing is to just pick something and do it.

You may not pick the best thing for yourself right away, hell, you may never really find the best thing ever, but the key is always improving, and moving forward.

He's saying that cars are a money pit.... how is that a good idea? I lived in the bay area for a bit, didnt need a car to enjoy it, but that was Berkeley/SF. I guess if you are up in the hills i can see needing a car.