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#1
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harassment? What's your preferred method? (Serious question here.)
Share a story/advice if you like.

I've never been the sort of person who's able to turn away when being tormented or bullied. I prefer to escalate the situation immediately into an all-out shitstorm (verbally, not physically) that leaves the aggressor questioning what the fuck just happened. Not the best, but I'm trying to work on it.

Edit: Not being harassed, but thank you for the concern.

harassment? What's your preferred method? (Serious question here.)
Share a story/advice if you like.


I've never been the sort of person who's able to turn away when being tormented or bullied. I prefer to escalate the situation immediately into an all-out shitstorm (verbally, not physically) that leaves the aggressor questioning what the fuck just happened. Not the best, but I'm trying to work on it.

Edit: Not being harassed, but thank you for the concern.
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#2
4 Frags +

I try to avoid acting immediately. I consider if its just my perception of the world causing the problem/offense or the other person has genuinely stepped out of line, in a way that I would consider excessive from his/her point of view.

If the former I ignore the situation and try to consider why I am so easily offended, and change that about myself. If the latter, I consider what would be appropriate as a response, with my highest priority being avoiding future damage, and my lowest being the feeling of revenge.

If I am truly out for revenge, I try to avoid any repercussions.

I try to avoid acting immediately. I consider if its just my perception of the world causing the problem/offense or the other person has genuinely stepped out of line, in a way that I would consider excessive from his/her point of view.

If the former I ignore the situation and try to consider why I am so easily offended, and change that about myself. If the latter, I consider what would be appropriate as a response, with my highest priority being avoiding future damage, and my lowest being the feeling of revenge.

If I am truly out for revenge, I try to avoid any repercussions.
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#3
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http://i.imgur.com/ErAniuF.gif

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#4
11 Frags +

put urself in their shoes

shit talking people is funny

put urself in their shoes

shit talking people is funny
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#5
3 Frags +

Depends if it is IRL, if it is physical then you have to stand up for yourself, some people only understand physical responses. It all depends on the person you're dealing with really, some people will create aggro for you but then won't be able to put up with it in response. If they are much physically stronger it is probably deeper issues with themselves that leads them to being insecure enough to harass you rather than to deal with their own issues.

I have a friend I adore who had to deal with harassment from a group of people in TF2 and it made her experience of the game dreadful to the point of not wanting to play, those types of people are the types who hide behind their anonmity online, I do take comfort in the fact these people are pathetic cowards that when faced with harassment from other people they hide in their shells.

Essentially though you need to ask the question "are these people worth my attention" because honestly the majority of people who harass me are not worth any sort of response or your acknowledgement, although these interactions are exclusively online, the only sort of IRL harassment I get is from an angry customer and hell, I can't ignore that.

Depends if it is IRL, if it is physical then you have to stand up for yourself, some people only understand physical responses. It all depends on the person you're dealing with really, some people will create aggro for you but then won't be able to put up with it in response. If they are much physically stronger it is probably deeper issues with themselves that leads them to being insecure enough to harass you rather than to deal with their own issues.

I have a friend I adore who had to deal with harassment from a group of people in TF2 and it made her experience of the game dreadful to the point of not wanting to play, those types of people are the types who hide behind their anonmity online, I do take comfort in the fact these people are pathetic cowards that when faced with harassment from other people they hide in their shells.

Essentially though you need to ask the question "are these people worth my attention" because honestly the majority of people who harass me are not worth any sort of response or your acknowledgement, although these interactions are exclusively online, the only sort of IRL harassment I get is from an angry customer and hell, I can't ignore that.
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#6
10 Frags +

If someone is harassing somone else, they ain't a real nigga. And fake niggas ain't worth the time, you feel me? 1 love.

If someone is harassing somone else, they ain't a real nigga. And fake niggas ain't worth the time, you feel me? 1 love.
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#7
2 Frags +

There are so many ways of harassing someone so kinda hard to have typical response, but I've had experience as I'm quite outspoken on what I think about things and quite confident of myself as a person and that has led to me making some great friends but also to me getting some harassment a couple off jerk-offs at my hall who don't like people who disagree with them.

For verbal, I feel like saying ignore them, but that doesn't work most of the time. So my recommendation is just shrug it off like it doesn't faze you and that it is more entertaining than annoying, that really grinds peoples gears and they tend to stop.

For physical, don't go out guns blazing or anything but don't back down for no reason. If it starts to get heavy then by all means get out of there, but most cases of physical intimidation i've been involved with or seen, stop when the person shows they're more trouble than it is worth to bother.
And I can't stress it enough, do not punch above your weight. Its dangerous getting physical with someone at any size, don't try and play the hero and fight the guy who's your body weight + half of it again on top. No one can call you a coward for that.

There are so many ways of harassing someone so kinda hard to have typical response, but I've had experience as I'm quite outspoken on what I think about things and quite confident of myself as a person and that has led to me making some great friends but also to me getting some harassment a couple off jerk-offs at my hall who don't like people who disagree with them.

For verbal, I feel like saying ignore them, but that doesn't work most of the time. So my recommendation is just shrug it off like it doesn't faze you and that it is more entertaining than annoying, that really grinds peoples gears and they tend to stop.

For physical, don't go out guns blazing or anything but don't back down for no reason. If it starts to get heavy then by all means get out of there, but most cases of physical intimidation i've been involved with or seen, stop when the person shows they're more trouble than it is worth to bother.
And I can't stress it enough, do not punch above your weight. Its dangerous getting physical with someone at any size, don't try and play the hero and fight the guy who's your body weight + half of it again on top. No one can call you a coward for that.
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#8
6 Frags +

I'm gonna guess this question is regarding gender harassment or harassment that escalated to that point. I am not sure if it was luck that my voice has not changed from that of a 40 year old smoker since I was a teen... but I would guess that is one of the reasons i never got bombarded with YOURE A GIRL?? over the years. I have always been given a hard time about the sound of my voice though (like I said... 40 year old smoker) which I have realized made me never want to talk - even if its just a few people - which is stupid. At some point I just got crazy self-conscious about the way I sound and let the douchebags win.

Just dont let the douchebags win. And if you need me to kick someones ass just let me know.

I'm gonna guess this question is regarding gender harassment or harassment that escalated to that point. I am not sure if it was luck that my voice has not changed from that of a 40 year old smoker since I was a teen... but I would guess that is one of the reasons i never got bombarded with YOURE A GIRL?? over the years. I have always been given a hard time about the sound of my voice though (like I said... 40 year old smoker) which I have realized made me never want to talk - even if its just a few people - which is stupid. At some point I just got crazy self-conscious about the way I sound and let the douchebags win.

Just dont let the douchebags win. And if you need me to kick someones ass just let me know.
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#9
-4 Frags +

Develop a mean shit-talk game and put them in their place by insulting their lifestyle/virginity/necessity to return to sea level

Develop a mean shit-talk game and put them in their place by insulting their lifestyle/virginity/necessity to return to sea level
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#10
7 Frags +
2sy_morphiendDevelop a mean shit-talk game and put them in their place by insulting their lifestyle/virginity/necessity to return to sea level

This. Don't do what most people here do and talk like they

[quote=2sy_morphiend]Develop a mean shit-talk game and put them in their place by insulting their lifestyle/virginity/necessity to return to sea level[/quote]
This. Don't do what most people here do and talk like they
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#11
1 Frags +

You can try to be nice to everyone or ignore them for however long you think you can. But there's gonna be a point where you're going to have to call people out on their bullshit. A lot of people can dish out shit talk, very few can take it.

You can try to be nice to everyone or ignore them for however long you think you can. But there's gonna be a point where you're going to have to call people out on their bullshit. A lot of people can dish out shit talk, very few can take it.
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#12
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klananaI'm gonna guess this question is regarding gender harassment or harassment that escalated to that point. I am not sure if it was luck that my voice has not changed from that of a 40 year old smoker since I was a teen... but I would guess that is one of the reasons i never got bombarded with YOURE A GIRL?? over the years. I have always been given a hard time about the sound of my voice though (like I said... 40 year old smoker) which I have realized made me never want to talk - even if its just a few people - which is stupid. At some point I just got crazy self-conscious about the way I sound and let the douchebags win.

Just dont let the douchebags win. And if you need me to kick someones ass just let me know.

you don't sound like a 40 year old smoker, you sound like a goblin

[quote=klanana]I'm gonna guess this question is regarding gender harassment or harassment that escalated to that point. I am not sure if it was luck that my voice has not changed from that of a 40 year old smoker since I was a teen... but I would guess that is one of the reasons i never got bombarded with YOURE A GIRL?? over the years. I have always been given a hard time about the sound of my voice though (like I said... 40 year old smoker) which I have realized made me never want to talk - even if its just a few people - which is stupid. At some point I just got crazy self-conscious about the way I sound and let the douchebags win.

Just dont let the douchebags win. And if you need me to kick someones ass just let me know.[/quote]
you don't sound like a 40 year old smoker, you sound like a goblin
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#13
1 Frags +

Grab them by their ears and headbutt the bridge of their nose as hard as you possibly can. They will be disoriented, use this time to karate chop them in the throat. They will never fuck with you again unless they're retarded.

Grab them by their ears and headbutt the bridge of their nose as hard as you possibly can. They will be disoriented, use this time to karate chop them in the throat. They will never fuck with you again unless they're retarded.
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#14
2 Frags +

yaug i heard u used to get so angry at tf2 that you punched yourself in the dick

t/f

yaug i heard u used to get so angry at tf2 that you punched yourself in the dick

t/f
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#15
1 Frags +

i say sorry and suck their dicks bc im beta as fuck

ps theres always one person that gropes my ass in a crowded bus

i say sorry and suck their dicks bc im beta as fuck

ps theres always one person that gropes my ass in a crowded bus
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#16
1 Frags +

of course bro im like the raging dick punching champ

of course bro im like the raging dick punching champ
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#17
7 Frags +

My solution to every harrasing encounter.

Bring your chin down to protect your neck while continuing to stare into his eyes. Bring up your hands and say "I don't want no trouble ya hear". Flex your traps and core. Slightly bend your knees.

Here comes the important part. In a low voice begin to say "wolowolowolowolowolo" slowly increasing in volume, he should be surprised by now. Begin to sway side to side and loosen all facial muscles and your anal sphicter and your kegal muscle. By now you should be pretty loud and your opponent will have stepped back and will appear visibly shaken.

Begin to piss and shit yourself and let your eyes roll into the back of your head. By now you are chanting "WOLOWOLOWOLOWOLO" at the top of your lungs.

He will run away. Everyone within a one mile radius will feel a terrifying precence within their soul.

Marvel as you ascend into your planar form.
My solution to every harrasing encounter.

[quote]Bring your chin down to protect your neck while continuing to stare into his eyes. Bring up your hands and say "I don't want no trouble ya hear". Flex your traps and core. Slightly bend your knees.

Here comes the important part. In a low voice begin to say "wolowolowolowolowolo" slowly increasing in volume, he should be surprised by now. Begin to sway side to side and loosen all facial muscles and your anal sphicter and your kegal muscle. By now you should be pretty loud and your opponent will have stepped back and will appear visibly shaken.

Begin to piss and shit yourself and let your eyes roll into the back of your head. By now you are chanting "WOLOWOLOWOLOWOLO" at the top of your lungs.

He will run away. Everyone within a one mile radius will feel a terrifying precence within their soul.

Marvel as you ascend into your planar form.[/quote]
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#18
3 Frags +
NoonaMy solution to every harrasing encounter.
Bring your chin down to protect your neck while continuing to stare into his eyes. Bring up your hands and say "I don't want no trouble ya hear". Flex your traps and core. Slightly bend your knees.

Here comes the important part. In a low voice begin to say "wolowolowolowolowolo" slowly increasing in volume, he should be surprised by now. Begin to sway side to side and loosen all facial muscles and your anal sphicter and your kegal muscle. By now you should be pretty loud and your opponent will have stepped back and will appear visibly shaken.

Begin to piss and shit yourself and let your eyes roll into the back of your head. By now you are chanting "WOLOWOLOWOLOWOLO" at the top of your lungs.

He will run away. Everyone within a one mile radius will feel a terrifying precence within their soul.

Marvel as you ascend into your planar form.

http://i.imgur.com/p5JlC.jpg

[quote=Noona]My solution to every harrasing encounter.

[quote]Bring your chin down to protect your neck while continuing to stare into his eyes. Bring up your hands and say "I don't want no trouble ya hear". Flex your traps and core. Slightly bend your knees.

Here comes the important part. In a low voice begin to say "wolowolowolowolowolo" slowly increasing in volume, he should be surprised by now. Begin to sway side to side and loosen all facial muscles and your anal sphicter and your kegal muscle. By now you should be pretty loud and your opponent will have stepped back and will appear visibly shaken.

Begin to piss and shit yourself and let your eyes roll into the back of your head. By now you are chanting "WOLOWOLOWOLOWOLO" at the top of your lungs.

He will run away. Everyone within a one mile radius will feel a terrifying precence within their soul.

Marvel as you ascend into your planar form.[/quote][/quote] http://i.imgur.com/p5JlC.jpg
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#19
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It heavily depends on relative age, if you are an adult, your coping methods may be different than those of a 12 year old. But at any age, serious sexual harassment shouldn't be stood for, and you should definitely tell someone.

My personal method is to give no satisfaction to the aggressor, your reaction is why (s)he is doing it. If your lack of reaction isn't going to help, or not helping, you should either confront the person or confide in someone else, because it clearly isn't going to stop on it's own.

It heavily depends on relative age, if you are an adult, your coping methods may be different than those of a 12 year old. But at any age, serious sexual harassment shouldn't be stood for, and you should definitely tell someone.

My personal method is to give no satisfaction to the aggressor, your reaction is why (s)he is doing it. If your lack of reaction isn't going to help, or not helping, you should either confront the person or confide in someone else, because it clearly isn't going to stop on it's own.
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