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#31
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Honestly everybody goes through a phase like that except for those who *all* things come super easy. I basically did nothing in high school and still did well - had anything actually been difficult I'd have totally dropped that ball in a second.

I know if my parents got an e-mail from a teacher I wouldn't have had a computer to type on though, so you've still got that going for you! lol.

It's simple, everything that we do is a conscious choice - every time you choose not to do something the onus for that act is on you. You can continue to do nothing, and tolerate the repercussions, or do it - you've got freedom there.

The way I approach it with my sonny boy (yeah, he's only in 1st grade but they still have to read 1 book, and do some kind of math every night) is he gets and snack and 30 minutes to veg with minecraft, and then I sit there and stare at him awkwardly (while reading a book) until he finishes his homework lol. Getting shit done right away is handy because you don't have to bother with it again. I know it sounds lame, but it started on me because of being a 3 1/2 sport athlete in HS (I did baseball and track at the same time) - every sport held every student over an extra 30 minutes, and your coaches would watch you do your homework (honestly a full load of work rarely took more than 45 minutes). If you didn't have your stuff done you wouldn't play. It's become such a habit for the kiddo he's taken to doing a lot of his math work on the bus, just so he can have more time to play without me staring at him for a half hour every night lol.

Honestly everybody goes through a phase like that except for those who *all* things come super easy. I basically did nothing in high school and still did well - had anything actually been difficult I'd have totally dropped that ball in a second.

I know if my parents got an e-mail from a teacher I wouldn't have had a computer to type on though, so you've still got that going for you! lol.

It's simple, everything that we do is a conscious choice - every time you choose not to do something the onus for that act is on you. You can continue to do nothing, and tolerate the repercussions, or do it - you've got freedom there.

The way I approach it with my sonny boy (yeah, he's only in 1st grade but they still have to read 1 book, and do some kind of math every night) is he gets and snack and 30 minutes to veg with minecraft, and then I sit there and stare at him awkwardly (while reading a book) until he finishes his homework lol. Getting shit done right away is handy because you don't have to bother with it again. I know it sounds lame, but it started on me because of being a 3 1/2 sport athlete in HS (I did baseball and track at the same time) - every sport held every student over an extra 30 minutes, and your coaches would watch you do your homework (honestly a full load of work rarely took more than 45 minutes). If you didn't have your stuff done you wouldn't play. It's become such a habit for the kiddo he's taken to doing a lot of his math work on the bus, just so he can have more time to play without me staring at him for a half hour every night lol.
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#32
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aim-stop trying to farm +frags

but its all ive ever known how to do and its NOT working anymore

[quote=aim-]stop trying to farm +frags[/quote]
but its all ive ever known how to do and its [b]NOT[/b] working anymore
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#33
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For me, I think it was about seeing why my effort in school mattered beyond getting good grades just for the sake of it.

To put that in concrete terms: My first year in college I cruised through the intro classes and prerequisites with a B+ average because I figured I was a shoo-in for upper-division admission to the CS department. Wrong! Turns out that the mean GPA of people accepted was on the order of 3.7 and here I was sitting pretty with a 3.3. I had to spend the next 2 years acing every single subsequent class I took in order to barely scrape by through the admissions process.

If you don't have any greater ambitions beyond doing the bare minimum to pass your classes, it's easy to lose motivation. Focus on your goals and how doing well in school will help you achieve them.

For me, I think it was about seeing why my effort in school mattered beyond getting good grades just for the sake of it.

To put that in concrete terms: My first year in college I cruised through the intro classes and prerequisites with a B+ average because I figured I was a shoo-in for upper-division admission to the CS department. Wrong! Turns out that the mean GPA of people accepted was on the order of 3.7 and here I was sitting pretty with a 3.3. I had to spend the next 2 years acing every single subsequent class I took in order to barely scrape by through the admissions process.

If you don't have any greater ambitions beyond doing the bare minimum to pass your classes, it's easy to lose motivation. Focus on your goals and how doing well in school will help you achieve them.
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#34
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You have to find out why you want to do things. If you're not interested in things you might not know why you should be in the first place. I had some bad existential issues in highschool and because of that things like English and History were last on my mind. What's the point, I don't exist, everything's a dream, etc. I had to find my meaning for existence before I could care about anything.

You have to find out [b]why[/b] you want to do things. If you're not interested in things you might not know why you should be in the first place. I had some bad existential issues in highschool and because of that things like English and History were last on my mind. What's the point, I don't exist, everything's a dream, etc. I had to find my meaning for existence before I could care about anything.
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#35
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There's a lot of good stuff in this thread, so I don't think I need to add too much. But first thing I want to get out is please, be honest with your psychologist. If you're failing over and over again, they need to know so they can figure possibly how to help you in the spot you're in. Pretending that you're progressing when you are not will hurt you. Some people have a harder time than others or may take longer to work out their situation [myself included] and don't take it as a sign of failure. The sooner they understand, the better they can help. Have any teachers approached you about your work or your behavior? Have you tried approaching them and honestly telling them that you are having trouble? Might be worth striking up that conversation, it may let them know of what you're dealing with.

If games are filling up your day [I saw someone above mention you had 100 hours in 2 weeks], I suggest just to cut them off while you finish up this semester. Get someone to take your spot for scrims. Try a day at first, then after a day try two. Then try holding off until the weekend. The next week, do the same from Monday to Friday. I do strongly agree with putting yourself in a location that is free of distraction and just allot yourself a few hours dedicated to doing work. [Not sure what your setup is like, but if you're using a home computer and a laptop, remove any games from the laptop and keep it for doing your homework.]

There's a lot of good stuff in this thread, so I don't think I need to add too much. But first thing I want to get out is please, be honest with your psychologist. If you're failing over and over again, they need to know so they can figure possibly how to help you in the spot you're in. Pretending that you're progressing when you are not will hurt you. Some people have a harder time than others or may take longer to work out their situation [myself included] and don't take it as a sign of failure. The sooner they understand, the better they can help. Have any teachers approached you about your work or your behavior? Have you tried approaching them and honestly telling them that you are having trouble? Might be worth striking up that conversation, it may let them know of what you're dealing with.

If games are filling up your day [I saw someone above mention you had 100 hours in 2 weeks], I suggest just to cut them off while you finish up this semester. Get someone to take your spot for scrims. Try a day at first, then after a day try two. Then try holding off until the weekend. The next week, do the same from Monday to Friday. I do strongly agree with putting yourself in a location that is free of distraction and just allot yourself a few hours dedicated to doing work. [Not sure what your setup is like, but if you're using a home computer and a laptop, remove any games from the laptop and keep it for doing your homework.]
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lumieresThe biggest piece of advice I can recommend is to make or go to a place that is only for work. For example, idk about your school but at my college they kept the library open 24/7 so I just went there to do all my work, there was no distractions and no temptation to play games or any of that. And if you just adapt it into your schedule it's not that big of an inconvenience, like if I had class from 8am-1pm I'd go to the library from 1-4 to do all my work, then go home and play games. If you school doesn't offer anything just go to a public library or at the very least set up a distinct spot in your house w/o a computer or TV or anything to do work.

So much this. By relating a certain activity to a location, you can get in the "zone" for whatever the activity is at that place (eg sleeping in your bed).

You can also check this out:
https://www.reddit.com/r/GetStudying/

[quote=lumieres]The biggest piece of advice I can recommend is to make or go to a place that is only for work. For example, idk about your school but at my college they kept the library open 24/7 so I just went there to do all my work, there was no distractions and no temptation to play games or any of that. And if you just adapt it into your schedule it's not that big of an inconvenience, like if I had class from 8am-1pm I'd go to the library from 1-4 to do all my work, then go home and play games. If you school doesn't offer anything just go to a public library or at the very least set up a distinct spot in your house w/o a computer or TV or anything to do work.[/quote]

So much this. By relating a certain activity to a location, you can get in the "zone" for whatever the activity is at that place (eg sleeping in your bed).

You can also check this out:
https://www.reddit.com/r/GetStudying/
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#37
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i had the exact same problem last year and really up till now, my method of coping was self harm... dont do wat i did lol

i had the exact same problem last year and really up till now, my method of coping was self harm... dont do wat i did lol
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#38
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I can definitely relate to this. My solution was to treat school like a job. From roughly 9am to roughly 5pm, I focus on school. Even if I'm half assing some homeworks, or barely skimming through the reading, and made sure that I was working on school stuff in those hours. As soon as 5pm hit, I would stop working on stuff. Most of the times, I can accomplish everything I need to in those hours (it took some effort at first, because I didn't have the motivation either), but knowing that at 5pm I was "done" for the day, and could just relax, play games, hang out with friends, etc, gave me a light at the end of the tunnel each day. Some days were crappy and I wasn't productive at all, some days I was super productive, and I noticed right away that whenever I was productive during those hours, and then relaxed afterwards, I was SO much happier. That ended up being a big motivator in keeping with that schedule.

I can definitely relate to this. My solution was to treat school like a job. From roughly 9am to roughly 5pm, I focus on school. Even if I'm half assing some homeworks, or barely skimming through the reading, and made sure that I was working on school stuff in those hours. As soon as 5pm hit, I would stop working on stuff. Most of the times, I can accomplish everything I need to in those hours (it took some effort at first, because I didn't have the motivation either), but knowing that at 5pm I was "done" for the day, and could just relax, play games, hang out with friends, etc, gave me a light at the end of the tunnel each day. Some days were crappy and I wasn't productive at all, some days I was super productive, and I noticed right away that whenever I was productive during those hours, and then relaxed afterwards, I was SO much happier. That ended up being a big motivator in keeping with that schedule.
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#39
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I've been in your exact situation before.
I didn't have any motivation, I was failing shit.
I was supposed to jump 3 years of school, but somehow I was failing some basic for stupid reasons.
Many people have been into that place before.

Let's be real here.

You need to be a man.
Face your problems upfront.
Don't look back, don't look for help, don't resort to anything besides yourself.
You are a man, and a man you shall be.
Look straight ahead and do your shit.
It may be painful, but no one else besides yourself will feel this pain.
Don't look down upon yourself, you are the only one that can save yourself.
Friends and family might try to cheer you up, but that won't do anything.
You have to bite into a stick and keep going.

Can't get yourself to do any coursework?
Fucking focus.
Sit down and do it.
Don't think of it as it is something just for yourself.
In a future, someone will somehow, someday depend on your actions.
What if you're not there for them when they need it because you just "couldn't get myself to do it" ?

Why are not doing what you're supposed to do?
You're not man enough now.
Grow up mentally and do it.

I may sound harsh, but I really mean it.
You have to grow up, you have to do it for yourself and for everyone else around you.

This is what my best friend used to tell me when I was struggling with anything.
He'd look directly into my eyes and say that.

Be strong, face your problems like a man.
When you overcome this, you will look back and just say "That was silly, I just had to do it."

I've been in your exact situation before.
I didn't have any motivation, I was failing shit.
I was supposed to jump 3 years of school, but somehow I was failing some basic for stupid reasons.
Many people have been into that place before.

Let's be real here.

You need to be a man.
Face your problems upfront.
Don't look back, don't look for help, don't resort to anything besides yourself.
You are a man, and a man you shall be.
Look straight ahead and do your shit.
It may be painful, but no one else besides yourself will feel this pain.
Don't look down upon yourself, you are the only one that can save yourself.
Friends and family might try to cheer you up, but that won't do anything.
You have to bite into a stick and keep going.

Can't get yourself to do any coursework?
Fucking focus.
Sit down and do it.
Don't think of it as it is something just for yourself.
In a future, someone will somehow, someday depend on your actions.
What if you're not there for them when they need it because you just "couldn't get myself to do it" ?

Why are not doing what you're supposed to do?
You're not man enough now.
Grow up mentally and do it.

I may sound harsh, but I really mean it.
You have to grow up, you have to do it for yourself and for everyone else around you.

This is what my best friend used to tell me when I was struggling with anything.
He'd look directly into my eyes and say that.

Be strong, face your problems like a man.
When you overcome this, you will look back and just say "That was silly, I just had to do it."
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#40
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I was going through similar things earlier this year and what helped me was really just taking a step back and looking at what I valued more in life. Though it's been said here already, I guess i'll just emphasize that school needs to be a higher priority than games. When I started distancing myself from my computer and playing less and less I actually felt freed, on any given night I wouldn't be obligated to play scrims and had time to relax. Getting started is the hardest part but once you realize what you need to do to fix the problem it gets easier.
Hell, I had do unplug my second hard drive (with games/music) in order to keep myself focused on studying instead of video games. Echoing what's been said, the environment in which you work also makes a big difference. I get most of my work done at school in the library or in a different room if I'm at home. Once you get everything done and can sit down at the computer (or do whatever else you want to) it feels much more rewarding with all the studying/work done with.
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I was going through similar things earlier this year and what helped me was really just taking a step back and looking at what I valued more in life. Though it's been said here already, I guess i'll just emphasize that school needs to be a higher priority than games. When I started distancing myself from my computer and playing less and less I actually felt freed, on any given night I wouldn't be obligated to play scrims and had time to relax. Getting started is the hardest part but once you realize what you need to do to fix the problem it gets easier.
Hell, I had do unplug my second hard drive (with games/music) in order to keep myself focused on studying instead of video games. Echoing what's been said, the environment in which you work also makes a big difference. I get most of my work done at school in the library or in a different room if I'm at home. Once you get everything done and can sit down at the computer (or do whatever else you want to) it feels much more rewarding with all the studying/work done with.
my 0.02
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#41
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drop out and start working

best decision I've ever made

the mentality that university education is necessary = result of brainwashing/cultural misconceptions

drop out and start working

best decision I've ever made

the mentality that university education is necessary = result of brainwashing/cultural misconceptions
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