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how do i deal with near crippling anxiety
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a lot of word vomit but maybe mindfulness techniques if you have some free time
when i was in a MH i was told to try looking out a window and naming all the different colors i see or watching the wind rustle or smth that distracts you from what's currently causing u stress. going on a walk, journaling, anything at all, reading or anything that isn't what u normally do. journaling sounds tacky af but it has really helped me manage my mood and my anxiety disorder, so i hope it might work for u too. seeing your thoughts on paper might help you look at it from a different perspective
probably seems scary to open up fully about ur anxiety but truly and honestly the best way to combat it other than mindfulness techniques is trying to get to the root of ur anxiety so u can try and build better mechanisms to handle it. usually it involves therapy but if it's not accessible, there is a lot of literature you can read on mindfulness and reducing your anxiety symptoms
breathing exercises also help a shit ton, 4-7-8 is a good way to regulate your breathing
close ur eyes & breathe in for 4 seconds, hold breath for 7, exhale for 8, rinse and repeat
ur not alone in ur anxiety tho, especially if therapy is too expensive don't give up hope, there is a lot of things u can do at home or outside that can possibly benefit u
a lot of word vomit but maybe mindfulness techniques if you have some free time
when i was in a MH i was told to try looking out a window and naming all the different colors i see or watching the wind rustle or smth that distracts you from what's currently causing u stress. going on a walk, journaling, anything at all, reading or anything that isn't what u normally do. journaling sounds tacky af but it has really helped me manage my mood and my anxiety disorder, so i hope it might work for u too. seeing your thoughts on paper might help you look at it from a different perspective
probably seems scary to open up fully about ur anxiety but truly and honestly the best way to combat it other than mindfulness techniques is trying to get to the root of ur anxiety so u can try and build better mechanisms to handle it. usually it involves therapy but if it's not accessible, there is a lot of literature you can read on mindfulness and reducing your anxiety symptoms
breathing exercises also help a shit ton, 4-7-8 is a good way to regulate your breathing
close ur eyes & breathe in for 4 seconds, hold breath for 7, exhale for 8, rinse and repeat
ur not alone in ur anxiety tho, especially if therapy is too expensive don't give up hope, there is a lot of things u can do at home or outside that can possibly benefit u
when i was in a MH i was told to try looking out a window and naming all the different colors i see or watching the wind rustle or smth that distracts you from what's currently causing u stress. going on a walk, journaling, anything at all, reading or anything that isn't what u normally do. journaling sounds tacky af but it has really helped me manage my mood and my anxiety disorder, so i hope it might work for u too. seeing your thoughts on paper might help you look at it from a different perspective
probably seems scary to open up fully about ur anxiety but truly and honestly the best way to combat it other than mindfulness techniques is trying to get to the root of ur anxiety so u can try and build better mechanisms to handle it. usually it involves therapy but if it's not accessible, there is a lot of literature you can read on mindfulness and reducing your anxiety symptoms
breathing exercises also help a shit ton, 4-7-8 is a good way to regulate your breathing
close ur eyes & breathe in for 4 seconds, hold breath for 7, exhale for 8, rinse and repeat
ur not alone in ur anxiety tho, especially if therapy is too expensive don't give up hope, there is a lot of things u can do at home or outside that can possibly benefit u
zheepa lot of word vomit but maybe mindfulness techniques if you have some free time
when i was in a MH i was told to try looking out a window and naming all the different colors i see or watching the wind rustle or smth that distracts you from what's currently causing u stress. going on a walk, journaling, anything at all, reading or anything that isn't what u normally do. journaling sounds tacky af but it has really helped me manage my mood and my anxiety disorder, so i hope it might work for u too. seeing your thoughts on paper might help you look at it from a different perspective
probably seems scary to open up fully about ur anxiety but truly and honestly the best way to combat it other than mindfulness techniques is trying to get to the root of ur anxiety so u can try and build better mechanisms to handle it. usually it involves therapy but if it's not accessible, there is a lot of literature you can read on mindfulness and reducing your anxiety symptoms
breathing exercises also help a shit ton, 4-7-8 is a good way to regulate your breathing
close ur eyes & breathe in for 4 seconds, hold breath for 7, exhale for 8, rinse and repeat
ur not alone in ur anxiety tho, especially if therapy is too expensive don't give up hope, there is a lot of things u can do at home or outside that can possibly benefit u
Wow a genuine reply, I did not expect that here. Thank you for your perspective, this is informative.
roachi got bad social anxiety and usually deal with it by staying home and chain smoking in moms basement
It's not social anxiety but thank you, I wish you luck with your anxiety though, you got this.
[quote=zheep]a lot of word vomit but maybe mindfulness techniques if you have some free time
when i was in a MH i was told to try looking out a window and naming all the different colors i see or watching the wind rustle or smth that distracts you from what's currently causing u stress. going on a walk, journaling, anything at all, reading or anything that isn't what u normally do. journaling sounds tacky af but it has really helped me manage my mood and my anxiety disorder, so i hope it might work for u too. seeing your thoughts on paper might help you look at it from a different perspective
probably seems scary to open up fully about ur anxiety but truly and honestly the best way to combat it other than mindfulness techniques is trying to get to the root of ur anxiety so u can try and build better mechanisms to handle it. usually it involves therapy but if it's not accessible, there is a lot of literature you can read on mindfulness and reducing your anxiety symptoms
breathing exercises also help a shit ton, 4-7-8 is a good way to regulate your breathing
close ur eyes & breathe in for 4 seconds, hold breath for 7, exhale for 8, rinse and repeat
ur not alone in ur anxiety tho, especially if therapy is too expensive don't give up hope, there is a lot of things u can do at home or outside that can possibly benefit u[/quote]
Wow a genuine reply, I did not expect that here. Thank you for your perspective, this is informative.
[quote=roach]i got bad social anxiety and usually deal with it by staying home and chain smoking in moms basement[/quote]
It's not social anxiety but thank you, I wish you luck with your anxiety though, you got this.
when i was in a MH i was told to try looking out a window and naming all the different colors i see or watching the wind rustle or smth that distracts you from what's currently causing u stress. going on a walk, journaling, anything at all, reading or anything that isn't what u normally do. journaling sounds tacky af but it has really helped me manage my mood and my anxiety disorder, so i hope it might work for u too. seeing your thoughts on paper might help you look at it from a different perspective
probably seems scary to open up fully about ur anxiety but truly and honestly the best way to combat it other than mindfulness techniques is trying to get to the root of ur anxiety so u can try and build better mechanisms to handle it. usually it involves therapy but if it's not accessible, there is a lot of literature you can read on mindfulness and reducing your anxiety symptoms
breathing exercises also help a shit ton, 4-7-8 is a good way to regulate your breathing
close ur eyes & breathe in for 4 seconds, hold breath for 7, exhale for 8, rinse and repeat
ur not alone in ur anxiety tho, especially if therapy is too expensive don't give up hope, there is a lot of things u can do at home or outside that can possibly benefit u[/quote]
Wow a genuine reply, I did not expect that here. Thank you for your perspective, this is informative.
[quote=roach]i got bad social anxiety and usually deal with it by staying home and chain smoking in moms basement[/quote]
It's not social anxiety but thank you, I wish you luck with your anxiety though, you got this.
what zheep said about putting things on paper also really helped me out -
for instance when im really overwhelmed, i will write down all the individual things giving me stress. I will then order them in order of what's giving me the most anxiety/what is the most important to deal with etc, some sort of order of 'importance' if that makes sense. for me this would be a variety of things, like studies, family issues, friends etc.
at this point id try to rationalise these situations as well as writing down what exactly i could do in order to feel less anxious from these individual things. a lot of the time this would make me feel much more comfortable because not only is being honest about your anxiety a little relieving but sometimes putting thoughts on paper shows me that the problems I have are absolutely manageable. the reason why i personally format it like a list is because i work through it from the 'most important' to the least and when im having a real bad day it feels good to see ive almost ticked something off if that makes sense.
aswell as this, if your feeling extremely anxious and are not making any progress in whatever you are doing (for me, this would usually be studying) then my advice is to stop completely and take a break. the worst ive felt is forcing myself to keep going forward in order to meet some sort of schedule. not only did i usually not make any progress in situations like this, but i also felt so much more anxious afterwards. when im in these situations now i acknowledge that i feel overwhelmed and just take a break to recollect my thoughts, at which point ill try again.
what zheep said about putting things on paper also really helped me out -
for instance when im really overwhelmed, i will write down all the individual things giving me stress. I will then order them in order of what's giving me the most anxiety/what is the most important to deal with etc, some sort of order of 'importance' if that makes sense. for me this would be a variety of things, like studies, family issues, friends etc.
at this point id try to rationalise these situations as well as writing down what exactly i could do in order to feel less anxious from these individual things. a lot of the time this would make me feel much more comfortable because not only is being honest about your anxiety a little relieving but sometimes putting thoughts on paper shows me that the problems I have are absolutely manageable. the reason why i personally format it like a list is because i work through it from the 'most important' to the least and when im having a real bad day it feels good to see ive almost ticked something off if that makes sense.
aswell as this, if your feeling extremely anxious and are not making any progress in whatever you are doing (for me, this would usually be studying) then my advice is to stop completely and take a break. the worst ive felt is forcing myself to keep going forward in order to meet some sort of schedule. not only did i usually not make any progress in situations like this, but i also felt so much more anxious afterwards. when im in these situations now i acknowledge that i feel overwhelmed and just take a break to recollect my thoughts, at which point ill try again.
for instance when im really overwhelmed, i will write down all the individual things giving me stress. I will then order them in order of what's giving me the most anxiety/what is the most important to deal with etc, some sort of order of 'importance' if that makes sense. for me this would be a variety of things, like studies, family issues, friends etc.
at this point id try to rationalise these situations as well as writing down what exactly i could do in order to feel less anxious from these individual things. a lot of the time this would make me feel much more comfortable because not only is being honest about your anxiety a little relieving but sometimes putting thoughts on paper shows me that the problems I have are absolutely manageable. the reason why i personally format it like a list is because i work through it from the 'most important' to the least and when im having a real bad day it feels good to see ive almost ticked something off if that makes sense.
aswell as this, if your feeling extremely anxious and are not making any progress in whatever you are doing (for me, this would usually be studying) then my advice is to stop completely and take a break. the worst ive felt is forcing myself to keep going forward in order to meet some sort of schedule. not only did i usually not make any progress in situations like this, but i also felt so much more anxious afterwards. when im in these situations now i acknowledge that i feel overwhelmed and just take a break to recollect my thoughts, at which point ill try again.
robinwhat zheep said about putting things on paper also really helped me out -
for instance when im really overwhelmed, i will write down all the individual things giving me stress. I will then order them in order of what's giving me the most anxiety/what is the most important to deal with etc, some sort of order of 'importance' if that makes sense. for me this would be a variety of things, like studies, family issues, friends etc.
at this point id try to rationalise these situations as well as writing down what exactly i could do in order to feel less anxious from these individual things. a lot of the time this would make me feel much more comfortable because not only is being honest about your anxiety a little relieving but sometimes putting thoughts on paper shows me that the problems I have are absolutely manageable. the reason why i personally format it like a list is because i work through it from the 'most important' to the least and when im having a real bad day it feels good to see ive almost ticked something off if that makes sense.
aswell as this, if your feeling extremely anxious and are not making any progress in whatever you are doing (for me, this would usually be studying) then my advice is to stop completely and take a break. the worst ive felt is forcing myself to keep going forward in order to meet some sort of schedule. not only did i usually not make any progress in situations like this, but i also felt so much more anxious afterwards. when im in these situations now i acknowledge that i feel overwhelmed and just take a break to recollect my thoughts, at which point ill try again.
That is genuinely helpful, thanks man.
[quote=robin]what zheep said about putting things on paper also really helped me out -
for instance when im really overwhelmed, i will write down all the individual things giving me stress. I will then order them in order of what's giving me the most anxiety/what is the most important to deal with etc, some sort of order of 'importance' if that makes sense. for me this would be a variety of things, like studies, family issues, friends etc.
at this point id try to rationalise these situations as well as writing down what exactly i could do in order to feel less anxious from these individual things. a lot of the time this would make me feel much more comfortable because not only is being honest about your anxiety a little relieving but sometimes putting thoughts on paper shows me that the problems I have are absolutely manageable. the reason why i personally format it like a list is because i work through it from the 'most important' to the least and when im having a real bad day it feels good to see ive almost ticked something off if that makes sense.
aswell as this, if your feeling extremely anxious and are not making any progress in whatever you are doing (for me, this would usually be studying) then my advice is to stop completely and take a break. the worst ive felt is forcing myself to keep going forward in order to meet some sort of schedule. not only did i usually not make any progress in situations like this, but i also felt so much more anxious afterwards. when im in these situations now i acknowledge that i feel overwhelmed and just take a break to recollect my thoughts, at which point ill try again.[/quote]
That is genuinely helpful, thanks man.
for instance when im really overwhelmed, i will write down all the individual things giving me stress. I will then order them in order of what's giving me the most anxiety/what is the most important to deal with etc, some sort of order of 'importance' if that makes sense. for me this would be a variety of things, like studies, family issues, friends etc.
at this point id try to rationalise these situations as well as writing down what exactly i could do in order to feel less anxious from these individual things. a lot of the time this would make me feel much more comfortable because not only is being honest about your anxiety a little relieving but sometimes putting thoughts on paper shows me that the problems I have are absolutely manageable. the reason why i personally format it like a list is because i work through it from the 'most important' to the least and when im having a real bad day it feels good to see ive almost ticked something off if that makes sense.
aswell as this, if your feeling extremely anxious and are not making any progress in whatever you are doing (for me, this would usually be studying) then my advice is to stop completely and take a break. the worst ive felt is forcing myself to keep going forward in order to meet some sort of schedule. not only did i usually not make any progress in situations like this, but i also felt so much more anxious afterwards. when im in these situations now i acknowledge that i feel overwhelmed and just take a break to recollect my thoughts, at which point ill try again.[/quote]
That is genuinely helpful, thanks man.
For me a combination of therapy and exposure has helped a lot. I understand that therapy isn't accessible for everyone so I'm just gonna point out that the things that actually made a difference in therapy were pretty much exactly what zheep posted. I have no doubt that even without the structure of therapy those things can help. Learning how to properly take deep breathes is invaluable even if it sounds corny.
When I was younger my anxiety was crippling. I couldn't go more than a day without having an anxiety attack at school, my cycling thoughts shaped my interactions with everyone around me and I couldn't even bring myself to answer the phone. I even dropped out of school as a direct result. I know my experience may not be super relevant but I think its important to hear that things can get better. I spent a lot of time practicing my breathing so that it became automatic when the anxiety came on and my brain started to get hazy, I tried to open up more about how I was feeling to those around me and practiced the shit out of mindfulness. Today I have a job I'm really happy with where amazingly I answer the phone all day, I feel like I'm able to talk and connect with people without letting my insecurities shape how I'm acting and I'm overall a bit happier. Not perfect, not cured, but happier.
All of that work took years, it was slow going and a lot of the time it was one step forward, two steps back. Just try and remember that working on your mental health is like flexing a muscle. Building habits is really really hard at first and that's okay. Make the progress you can when you can and when you aren't in a spot to challenge yourself that is totally okay. It gets easier over time, albeit slowly.
Sorry for the rant. I really wish you the best and I really am confident things can get better for you.
For me a combination of therapy and exposure has helped a lot. I understand that therapy isn't accessible for everyone so I'm just gonna point out that the things that actually made a difference in therapy were pretty much exactly what zheep posted. I have no doubt that even without the structure of therapy those things can help. Learning how to properly take deep breathes is invaluable even if it sounds corny.
When I was younger my anxiety was crippling. I couldn't go more than a day without having an anxiety attack at school, my cycling thoughts shaped my interactions with everyone around me and I couldn't even bring myself to answer the phone. I even dropped out of school as a direct result. I know my experience may not be super relevant but I think its important to hear that things can get better. I spent a lot of time practicing my breathing so that it became automatic when the anxiety came on and my brain started to get hazy, I tried to open up more about how I was feeling to those around me and practiced the shit out of mindfulness. Today I have a job I'm really happy with where amazingly I answer the phone all day, I feel like I'm able to talk and connect with people without letting my insecurities shape how I'm acting and I'm overall a bit happier. Not perfect, not cured, but happier.
All of that work took years, it was slow going and a lot of the time it was one step forward, two steps back. Just try and remember that working on your mental health is like flexing a muscle. Building habits is really really hard at first and that's okay. Make the progress you can when you can and when you aren't in a spot to challenge yourself that is totally okay. It gets easier over time, albeit slowly.
Sorry for the rant. I really wish you the best and I really am confident things can get better for you.
When I was younger my anxiety was crippling. I couldn't go more than a day without having an anxiety attack at school, my cycling thoughts shaped my interactions with everyone around me and I couldn't even bring myself to answer the phone. I even dropped out of school as a direct result. I know my experience may not be super relevant but I think its important to hear that things can get better. I spent a lot of time practicing my breathing so that it became automatic when the anxiety came on and my brain started to get hazy, I tried to open up more about how I was feeling to those around me and practiced the shit out of mindfulness. Today I have a job I'm really happy with where amazingly I answer the phone all day, I feel like I'm able to talk and connect with people without letting my insecurities shape how I'm acting and I'm overall a bit happier. Not perfect, not cured, but happier.
All of that work took years, it was slow going and a lot of the time it was one step forward, two steps back. Just try and remember that working on your mental health is like flexing a muscle. Building habits is really really hard at first and that's okay. Make the progress you can when you can and when you aren't in a spot to challenge yourself that is totally okay. It gets easier over time, albeit slowly.
Sorry for the rant. I really wish you the best and I really am confident things can get better for you.
I think what's really important to realize is that fear is your mind trying to protect yourself from something, which is at first a good thing. The problem with anxiety is that your fear develops into something that more than negatively affects your everyday life and even though it might have been rational at first it may become irrational.
If you live in a country with a healthcare system they should cover your costs for therapy but judging by your comments you probably aren't which is sad. You could check out this website https://www.healthygamer.gg/ I have not made any experiences with them I just agree with the opinions of the person who built the organization so therefor I think it's worth giving it a try. Oh the creator also has a youtube channel so he might have some videos that could help you!
From my experience I think it's most important to just talk to someone about your anxiety it's the best thing you can do.
It doesn't have to be a therapist just someone who is willing to listen to what you have to say and also is interested in what you're saying. The things that were previously in your mind that made so much sense might, when you say them out loud (or write them out like others suggested) all of the sudden feel completely irrational and stupid.
But this of course depends on your anxiety I think it's really important going further to find out which anxiety it is you have/ what it's all about. Depending on that you can find a lot more specific help but the things I wrote above always help (not only for anxiety btw). If you are willing to share what your anxiety is about I think a lot of people would be willing to give you further advice on what helped them the most to cope with similar issues but you definitely don't have to!
I mostly have experience with OCD and things related to social anxiety, which for me could be put as "things where you're afraid of the responses from others either indirectly or directly" so that's where my view comes from.
I think that you creating this posts is a showing of a lot of courage and I wish you all the best!
I think what's really important to realize is that fear is your mind trying to protect yourself from something, which is at first a good thing. The problem with anxiety is that your fear develops into something that more than negatively affects your everyday life and even though it might have been rational at first it may become irrational.
If you live in a country with a healthcare system they should cover your costs for therapy but judging by your comments you probably aren't which is sad. You could check out this website [url=https://www.healthygamer.gg/]https://www.healthygamer.gg/[/url] I have not made any experiences with them I just agree with the opinions of the person who built the organization so therefor I think it's worth giving it a try. Oh the creator also has a youtube channel so he might have some videos that could help you!
From my experience I think it's most important to just talk to someone about your anxiety it's the best thing you can do.
It doesn't have to be a therapist just someone who is willing to listen to what you have to say and also is interested in what you're saying. The things that were previously in your mind that made so much sense might, when you say them out loud (or write them out like others suggested) all of the sudden feel completely irrational and stupid.
But this of course depends on your anxiety I think it's really important going further to find out which anxiety it is you have/ what it's all about. Depending on that you can find a lot more specific help but the things I wrote above always help (not only for anxiety btw). If you are willing to share what your anxiety is about I think a lot of people would be willing to give you further advice on what helped them the most to cope with similar issues but you [b]definitely don't have to![/b]
I mostly have experience with OCD and things related to social anxiety, which for me could be put as "things where you're afraid of the responses from others either indirectly or directly" so that's where my view comes from.
I think that you creating this posts is a showing of a lot of courage and I wish you all the best!
If you live in a country with a healthcare system they should cover your costs for therapy but judging by your comments you probably aren't which is sad. You could check out this website [url=https://www.healthygamer.gg/]https://www.healthygamer.gg/[/url] I have not made any experiences with them I just agree with the opinions of the person who built the organization so therefor I think it's worth giving it a try. Oh the creator also has a youtube channel so he might have some videos that could help you!
From my experience I think it's most important to just talk to someone about your anxiety it's the best thing you can do.
It doesn't have to be a therapist just someone who is willing to listen to what you have to say and also is interested in what you're saying. The things that were previously in your mind that made so much sense might, when you say them out loud (or write them out like others suggested) all of the sudden feel completely irrational and stupid.
But this of course depends on your anxiety I think it's really important going further to find out which anxiety it is you have/ what it's all about. Depending on that you can find a lot more specific help but the things I wrote above always help (not only for anxiety btw). If you are willing to share what your anxiety is about I think a lot of people would be willing to give you further advice on what helped them the most to cope with similar issues but you [b]definitely don't have to![/b]
I mostly have experience with OCD and things related to social anxiety, which for me could be put as "things where you're afraid of the responses from others either indirectly or directly" so that's where my view comes from.
I think that you creating this posts is a showing of a lot of courage and I wish you all the best!
EntropyTFFor me a combination of therapy and exposure has helped a lot. I understand that therapy isn't accessible for everyone so I'm just gonna point out that the things that actually made a difference in therapy were pretty much exactly what zheep posted. I have no doubt that even without the structure of therapy those things can help. Learning how to properly take deep breathes is invaluable even if it sounds corny.
When I was younger my anxiety was crippling. I couldn't go more than a day without having an anxiety attack at school, my cycling thoughts shaped my interactions with everyone around me and I couldn't even bring myself to answer the phone. I even dropped out of school as a direct result. I know my experience may not be super relevant but I think its important to hear that things can get better. I spent a lot of time practicing my breathing so that it became automatic when the anxiety came on and my brain started to get hazy, I tried to open up more about how I was feeling to those around me and practiced the shit out of mindfulness. Today I have a job I'm really happy with where amazingly I answer the phone all day, I feel like I'm able to talk and connect with people without letting my insecurities shape how I'm acting and I'm overall a bit happier. Not perfect, not cured, but happier.
All of that work took years, it was slow going and a lot of the time it was one step forward, two steps back. Just try and remember that working on your mental health is like flexing a muscle. Building habits is really really hard at first and that's okay. Make the progress you can when you can and when you aren't in a spot to challenge yourself that is totally okay. It gets easier over time, albeit slowly.
Sorry for the rant. I really wish you the best and I really am confident things can get better for you.
That does give hope, thank you, and I'm glad you're doing better.
BvI think what's really important to realize is that fear is your mind trying to protect yourself from something, which is at first a good thing. The problem with anxiety is that your fear develops into something that more than negatively affects your everyday life and even though it might have been rational at first it may become irrational.
If you live in a country with a healthcare system they should cover your costs for therapy but judging by your comments you probably aren't which is sad. You could check out this website https://www.healthygamer.gg/ I have not made any experiences with them I just agree with the opinions of the person who built the organization so therefor I think it's worth giving it a try. Oh the creator also has a youtube channel so he might have some videos that could help you!
From my experience I think it's most important to just talk to someone about your anxiety it's the best thing you can do.
It doesn't have to be a therapist just someone who is willing to listen to what you have to say and also is interested in what you're saying. The things that were previously in your mind that made so much sense might, when you say them out loud (or write them out like others suggested) all of the sudden feel completely irrational and stupid.
But this of course depends on your anxiety I think it's really important going further to find out which anxiety it is you have/ what it's all about. Depending on that you can find a lot more specific help but the things I wrote above always help (not only for anxiety btw). If you are willing to share what your anxiety is about I think a lot of people would be willing to give you further advice on what helped them the most to cope with similar issues but you definitely don't have to!
I mostly have experience with OCD and things related to social anxiety, which for me could be put as "things where you're afraid of the responses from others either indirectly or directly" so that's where my view comes from.
I think that you creating this posts is a showing of a lot of courage and I wish you all the best!
The website looks neat, I'll check it out, thank you! Also, it's mostly separation anxiety and a number of other things mentally. Thank you though! That really helps. :)
y'all are so fucking nice wtf
[quote=EntropyTF]For me a combination of therapy and exposure has helped a lot. I understand that therapy isn't accessible for everyone so I'm just gonna point out that the things that actually made a difference in therapy were pretty much exactly what zheep posted. I have no doubt that even without the structure of therapy those things can help. Learning how to properly take deep breathes is invaluable even if it sounds corny.
When I was younger my anxiety was crippling. I couldn't go more than a day without having an anxiety attack at school, my cycling thoughts shaped my interactions with everyone around me and I couldn't even bring myself to answer the phone. I even dropped out of school as a direct result. I know my experience may not be super relevant but I think its important to hear that things can get better. I spent a lot of time practicing my breathing so that it became automatic when the anxiety came on and my brain started to get hazy, I tried to open up more about how I was feeling to those around me and practiced the shit out of mindfulness. Today I have a job I'm really happy with where amazingly I answer the phone all day, I feel like I'm able to talk and connect with people without letting my insecurities shape how I'm acting and I'm overall a bit happier. Not perfect, not cured, but happier.
All of that work took years, it was slow going and a lot of the time it was one step forward, two steps back. Just try and remember that working on your mental health is like flexing a muscle. Building habits is really really hard at first and that's okay. Make the progress you can when you can and when you aren't in a spot to challenge yourself that is totally okay. It gets easier over time, albeit slowly.
Sorry for the rant. I really wish you the best and I really am confident things can get better for you.[/quote]
That does give hope, thank you, and I'm glad you're doing better.
[quote=Bv]I think what's really important to realize is that fear is your mind trying to protect yourself from something, which is at first a good thing. The problem with anxiety is that your fear develops into something that more than negatively affects your everyday life and even though it might have been rational at first it may become irrational.
If you live in a country with a healthcare system they should cover your costs for therapy but judging by your comments you probably aren't which is sad. You could check out this website [url=https://www.healthygamer.gg/]https://www.healthygamer.gg/[/url] I have not made any experiences with them I just agree with the opinions of the person who built the organization so therefor I think it's worth giving it a try. Oh the creator also has a youtube channel so he might have some videos that could help you!
From my experience I think it's most important to just talk to someone about your anxiety it's the best thing you can do.
It doesn't have to be a therapist just someone who is willing to listen to what you have to say and also is interested in what you're saying. The things that were previously in your mind that made so much sense might, when you say them out loud (or write them out like others suggested) all of the sudden feel completely irrational and stupid.
But this of course depends on your anxiety I think it's really important going further to find out which anxiety it is you have/ what it's all about. Depending on that you can find a lot more specific help but the things I wrote above always help (not only for anxiety btw). If you are willing to share what your anxiety is about I think a lot of people would be willing to give you further advice on what helped them the most to cope with similar issues but you [b]definitely don't have to![/b]
I mostly have experience with OCD and things related to social anxiety, which for me could be put as "things where you're afraid of the responses from others either indirectly or directly" so that's where my view comes from.
I think that you creating this posts is a showing of a lot of courage and I wish you all the best![/quote]
The website looks neat, I'll check it out, thank you! Also, it's mostly separation anxiety and a number of other things mentally. Thank you though! That really helps. :)
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When I was younger my anxiety was crippling. I couldn't go more than a day without having an anxiety attack at school, my cycling thoughts shaped my interactions with everyone around me and I couldn't even bring myself to answer the phone. I even dropped out of school as a direct result. I know my experience may not be super relevant but I think its important to hear that things can get better. I spent a lot of time practicing my breathing so that it became automatic when the anxiety came on and my brain started to get hazy, I tried to open up more about how I was feeling to those around me and practiced the shit out of mindfulness. Today I have a job I'm really happy with where amazingly I answer the phone all day, I feel like I'm able to talk and connect with people without letting my insecurities shape how I'm acting and I'm overall a bit happier. Not perfect, not cured, but happier.
All of that work took years, it was slow going and a lot of the time it was one step forward, two steps back. Just try and remember that working on your mental health is like flexing a muscle. Building habits is really really hard at first and that's okay. Make the progress you can when you can and when you aren't in a spot to challenge yourself that is totally okay. It gets easier over time, albeit slowly.
Sorry for the rant. I really wish you the best and I really am confident things can get better for you.[/quote]
That does give hope, thank you, and I'm glad you're doing better.
[quote=Bv]I think what's really important to realize is that fear is your mind trying to protect yourself from something, which is at first a good thing. The problem with anxiety is that your fear develops into something that more than negatively affects your everyday life and even though it might have been rational at first it may become irrational.
If you live in a country with a healthcare system they should cover your costs for therapy but judging by your comments you probably aren't which is sad. You could check out this website [url=https://www.healthygamer.gg/]https://www.healthygamer.gg/[/url] I have not made any experiences with them I just agree with the opinions of the person who built the organization so therefor I think it's worth giving it a try. Oh the creator also has a youtube channel so he might have some videos that could help you!
From my experience I think it's most important to just talk to someone about your anxiety it's the best thing you can do.
It doesn't have to be a therapist just someone who is willing to listen to what you have to say and also is interested in what you're saying. The things that were previously in your mind that made so much sense might, when you say them out loud (or write them out like others suggested) all of the sudden feel completely irrational and stupid.
But this of course depends on your anxiety I think it's really important going further to find out which anxiety it is you have/ what it's all about. Depending on that you can find a lot more specific help but the things I wrote above always help (not only for anxiety btw). If you are willing to share what your anxiety is about I think a lot of people would be willing to give you further advice on what helped them the most to cope with similar issues but you [b]definitely don't have to![/b]
I mostly have experience with OCD and things related to social anxiety, which for me could be put as "things where you're afraid of the responses from others either indirectly or directly" so that's where my view comes from.
I think that you creating this posts is a showing of a lot of courage and I wish you all the best![/quote]
The website looks neat, I'll check it out, thank you! Also, it's mostly separation anxiety and a number of other things mentally. Thank you though! That really helps. :)
y'all are so fucking nice wtf
kordyanmann up ladies
thanks im cured tyvm
[quote=kordyan]mann up ladies[/quote]
thanks im cured tyvm
thanks im cured tyvm
i had crippling anxiety for a while until i came to the realization that everything i was paranoid about during an anxiety attack were real legitimate things for me to be concerned about, and most of the time i just tried not to think about that stuff since i could not change anything. i realized that i needed to focus on the things that made me anxious and either do whatever i could to fix those issues, or come to a more comfortable mental conclusion than "best not to think about it". i have no idea if other people would benefit from this, but it is what helped me.
i had crippling anxiety for a while until i came to the realization that everything i was paranoid about during an anxiety attack were real legitimate things for me to be concerned about, and most of the time i just tried not to think about that stuff since i could not change anything. i realized that i needed to focus on the things that made me anxious and either do whatever i could to fix those issues, or come to a more comfortable mental conclusion than "best not to think about it". i have no idea if other people would benefit from this, but it is what helped me.
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