I've always had a pretty tough time with school, specifically with math, but I've had trouble getting stuff done for other classes too. When I was in high school my parents would take away my computer thinking that was the problem but it never really seemed to make much of a difference. I'm not failing out of college but my GPA is an unimpressive 2.5 and I have failed a couple classes. I feel horrible about wasting my parents money becuase I know how lucky I have it and that there are people way less privileged than I am that can manage to get good grades and work a job. Many of the teachers ive had growing up have suggested that I might have ADD which I resonded to by saying that I just wasn't trying hard enough and didn't want any excuses. Now im starting to think they were right. Im forgetful, disorganized, my brain feels foggy, and the only thing more inconsistent than my train of thought is my DM. I want to talk to my parents about seeing a psychiatrist so I can know whats really going on in there but I'm afraid they'll just think I'm just looking for an excuse for my laziness. I'm sure somebody else here has been in a similar situation so I would really like to hear about you learned to deal with it. I know this thread probably won't actually do anything for me but hearing other peoples stories might help me feel a little better inside. Thank you for your time.
Hey man, don't get down I've been in that exact same scenario. It's like this weird limbo of playing video games, being mediocre at school, and feeling like a burden to those around you.
What I've found that helps is regimenting your day, your week, and your month. Figure out all the important stuff you need to do for school, put it on a calendar. Have an agenda for the week (repeat the same things you need for the month). Have a daily schedule that you try and adhere to.
Most of this stuff will have overlap, but it'll drill a certain consistency into you (idk about the dm thing though mines still shit).
What I've found that helps is regimenting your day, your week, and your month. Figure out all the important stuff you need to do for school, put it on a calendar. Have an agenda for the week (repeat the same things you need for the month). Have a daily schedule that you try and adhere to.
Most of this stuff will have overlap, but it'll drill a certain consistency into you (idk about the dm thing though mines still shit).
Talk to your adviser, if you're in college there's usually a student health center, or something like that, with a licensed councilor on staff to help students deal with situations just like this. Talk to them and get some help if you need it.
psychiatrists would probably help, but sometimes even seeing them isn't enough
Talk to your uni's therapist/counselor if you have the option. It'll help that you are definitely not alone in what you are feeling and there are ways to stop or limit thinking like that and to help redirect those thoughts to be more productive.
As for the math, I found that it was because I generally slacked off in my earlier years and basically forgot the basics of anything about basic trig. See if there are any tutors or study help groups if you need them. All it takes is to just ask for some help, there are more than enough willing people that can utilize their skills.
As for the math, I found that it was because I generally slacked off in my earlier years and basically forgot the basics of anything about basic trig. See if there are any tutors or study help groups if you need them. All it takes is to just ask for some help, there are more than enough willing people that can utilize their skills.
Typically when I have foggy brain issues, or start feeling "off" or "not quite there" it's almost always mild dehydration, allergies, or poor/little sleep.
Dehydration makes a lot of sense. I probably drink more coffee than water. I usually get about 7 hours of sleep but I tend to wake up a lot unless I'm completely exhausted so improvements can be made there. Until a couple weeks ago I was eating a lot better and going to the gym which helped with stress but everything else was still the same. I'll try to talk to an adviser and check out my schools student health services before I go home for winter break. Thank you for your words and advice, Obi, BeryTaQ, hektik, griff, Pankeyman, dr_djones, and comanglia.
I have been feeling the exact same way since I got to university a few years ago. I haven't gone to see anybody about it for the same reason you said, I'm afraid people will just accuse me of being lazy. It definitely makes school much harder for me than it should be, it is nearly impossible for me to keep focused on one thing for more than an hour before I get bored and just stop doing it. The reason why I think video games are a common theme, is because they are very stimulating, no two situations are ever the same, and they keep me thinking all the time and this stops me from getting bored for a bit longer, still not longer than two hours usually. I've tried doing so many things to feel different, but they just don't work, all the issues that Comanglia mentioned are not what is going on with me, I can't speak for you but from what you described it sounds almost identical to what I feel. That leads me to conclude that it must be something mental.
A friend of mine with ADD that is doing a double major in physics/compsci taking 6 classes (~80hours/week) so I would say that might not be a factor if you really want to do well. He does do his midterms and finals in another place that gives him more time to do it because of his ADD, so maybe you could do that to get some extra time on exams.
One of the biggest things to realize is exactly how much work you have to put in. At my uni at least, to be able to grad with a bachelors with just 1 major in 4 years requires you to take ~65hours/week of classes in half of the semesters. To put that more into perspective, that's roughly 8 hours/day 7 days a week. Add that on to your job(s) and it can get hairy real quick.
You really have to be prepared to put in that much time and I believe a lot of people coming into it expect not such a high workload.
One of the biggest things to realize is exactly how much work you have to put in. At my uni at least, to be able to grad with a bachelors with just 1 major in 4 years requires you to take ~65hours/week of classes in half of the semesters. To put that more into perspective, that's roughly 8 hours/day 7 days a week. Add that on to your job(s) and it can get hairy real quick.
You really have to be prepared to put in that much time and I believe a lot of people coming into it expect not such a high workload.
Went through some similar experiences. Just wasn't really healthy. For a month, drink 2L of water a day. Get in at least 30 pushups a day and 10-15 minutes of jogging if you don't feel like doing pushups. The point isn't to build a workout regiment but catch up on all of TF2's partially destructive time gap to your body's motor skills and conditioning. Capnfapn, you're very open and that tells me the issue isn't deep within you. I'm no psychologist or doctor, but the simplest answer is usually the right one and this isn't a difficult issue most times. Too much caffeine, not enough energy. I think you're trying to work as hard as you can on fewer resources and the body adapts so you can get used to it. But something has to start declining and because of the change you're just noticing the difference in your most active organ. Don't fret it. Unless you're angry and thinking of hurting others to secure a destructive lifestyle, just be more keen of nutrition and exercise. Oh and because 'fapn' is apart of your name, all symptoms you named coincidentally are effects of sexual exhaustion. If that's the case, just semma down aite.
EDIT: Lasnky put it into better words, but just keep in mind physical activity is vital to combat any degradation in your mental capabilities.
EDIT: Lasnky put it into better words, but just keep in mind physical activity is vital to combat any degradation in your mental capabilities.
be honest with yourself and tally up how much time you actually spend doing work for your classes.
if your number is low, you lack discipline. however, if you're sitting in a room actually studying with no distractions but you're not learning anything, you lack focus and that could be a medical issue.
if you cannot bring yourself to study, you have to realize that you will never be motivated to study and you can't rely on that if you want to see long term success. it's the same with TF2, you might not want to play all the time but if you scrim daily you'll keep getting better -- that one hour of DM you played when you were motivated is insignificant compared to years of consistent daily practice.
force yourself to do your work, or if you genuinely do not enjoy what you are doing, do something else.
you should also realize that your work now is just a means to an end. you're there for a degree. if you don't want that end-result and aren't willing to do something that makes you uncomfortable for it, re-evaluate your priorities.
if your number is low, you lack discipline. however, if you're sitting in a room actually studying with no distractions but you're not learning anything, you lack focus and that could be a medical issue.
if you cannot bring yourself to study, you have to realize that you will never be motivated to study and you can't rely on that if you want to see long term success. it's the same with TF2, you might not want to play all the time but if you scrim daily you'll keep getting better -- that one hour of DM you played when you were motivated is insignificant compared to years of consistent daily practice.
force yourself to do your work, or if you genuinely do not enjoy what you are doing, do something else.
you should also realize that your work now is just a means to an end. you're there for a degree. if you don't want that end-result and aren't willing to do something that makes you uncomfortable for it, re-evaluate your priorities.
don't play TF2 or other video games right before bed, it's stimulating and can disrupt your sleep. Not only does it make it harder to fall asleep but it also will cause you to wake up more often, which messes with your ability to memorize learnings from the day.
If possible, cut all the processed crap out of your diet, including(and especially) sugar. Get enough sun(15-30 minutes) late morning to early afternoon, sleep 7-9 hours in complete darkness(use an eyemask if you have to) and exercise a bit daily.
Fish oil supplements, or even better, eating oily types of fish are great for brain health, so you might want to look into that.
Fish oil supplements, or even better, eating oily types of fish are great for brain health, so you might want to look into that.
ObiHey man, don't get down I've been in that exact same scenario. It's like this weird limbo of playing video games, being mediocre at school, and feeling like a burden to those around you.
What I've found that helps is regimenting your day, your week, and your month. Figure out all the important stuff you need to do for school, put it on a calendar. Have an agenda for the week (repeat the same things you need for the month). Have a daily schedule that you try and adhere to.
Most of this stuff will have overlap, but it'll drill a certain consistency into you (idk about the dm thing though mines still shit).
I've done this every time I've felt overwhelmed by the amount of assignments and work I've had to do. I can break down an assignment I have to do into a bunch of chunks and work on everything little by little.
Best part about this is that it takes the idea of "Oh fuck I have 5 huge assignments due in two weeks," down to, "Oh all I have to do is write an introduction today? Cool." It gives me a bunch of subgoals to hit day to day that seems a lot more manageable, and also helps me track progress.
What I've found that helps is regimenting your day, your week, and your month. Figure out all the important stuff you need to do for school, put it on a calendar. Have an agenda for the week (repeat the same things you need for the month). Have a daily schedule that you try and adhere to.
Most of this stuff will have overlap, but it'll drill a certain consistency into you (idk about the dm thing though mines still shit).[/quote]
I've done this every time I've felt overwhelmed by the amount of assignments and work I've had to do. I can break down an assignment I have to do into a bunch of chunks and work on everything little by little.
Best part about this is that it takes the idea of "Oh fuck I have 5 huge assignments due in two weeks," down to, "Oh all I have to do is write an introduction today? Cool." It gives me a bunch of subgoals to hit day to day that seems a lot more manageable, and also helps me track progress.
Your symptoms very much remind me of a person addicted to fapping, like your name suggests. Try not fapping for a while and watch your problems go away. Check out reddit.com/r/nofap for more info, and thank me later.
Sleep is a big deal. I find if I'm not getting enough sleep, my mind just doesn't feel so sharp. And things that would take me a small amount of time, ends up taking way longer. Not to mention just not being able to focus in general.
Oh and be careful on eating out too much. Try cooking some of your more favorite foods, like a steak with steamed vegetables and/or a salad. Or something else that you enjoy cooking. I find if I just eat that junk at fast food restaurants too often I'll feel very sluggish and low-energy.
Also therapist would do good. Or even just your primary care doctor. They might run some blood tests. I found out recently that I was anemic so started taking Iron. I am feeling a million times better. It's crazy how if you're low on something that your body relies on that your body will gripe back. :)
Oh and side note, meet up with a friend or friends in IRL. Its nice to talk to people outside of the online gaming community. Helps me alot when I'm feeling down.
Oh and be careful on eating out too much. Try cooking some of your more favorite foods, like a steak with steamed vegetables and/or a salad. Or something else that you enjoy cooking. I find if I just eat that junk at fast food restaurants too often I'll feel very sluggish and low-energy.
Also therapist would do good. Or even just your primary care doctor. They might run some blood tests. I found out recently that I was anemic so started taking Iron. I am feeling a million times better. It's crazy how if you're low on something that your body relies on that your body will gripe back. :)
Oh and side note, meet up with a friend or friends in IRL. Its nice to talk to people outside of the online gaming community. Helps me alot when I'm feeling down.
HuggesYour symptoms very much remind me of a person addicted to fapping, like your name suggests. Try not fapping for a while and watch your problems go away. Check out reddit.com/r/nofap for more info, and thank me later.
honestly dude, not the time nor the place.
honestly dude, not the time nor the place.
Hellbent1 major in 4 years requires you to take ~65hours/week of classes in half of the semesters.
wut dude
wut dude
HellbentA friend of mine with ADD that is doing a double major in physics/compsci taking 6 classes (~80hours/week) so I would say that might not be a factor if you really want to do well. He does do his midterms and finals in another place that gives him more time to do it because of his ADD, so maybe you could do that to get some extra time on exams.
One of the biggest things to realize is exactly how much work you have to put in. At my uni at least, to be able to grad with a bachelors with just 1 major in 4 years requires you to take ~65hours/week of classes in half of the semesters. To put that more into perspective, that's roughly 8 hours/day 7 days a week. Add that on to your job(s) and it can get hairy real quick.
You really have to be prepared to put in that much time and I believe a lot of people coming into it expect not such a high workload.
If that's what education is in your country is like (I doubt it actually is), the only right course of action is to emigrate immediately. There is no reason for people not to come into it expecting "not such a high workload", because anything other than "not such a high workload" is completely ridiculous.
One of the biggest things to realize is exactly how much work you have to put in. At my uni at least, to be able to grad with a bachelors with just 1 major in 4 years requires you to take ~65hours/week of classes in half of the semesters. To put that more into perspective, that's roughly 8 hours/day 7 days a week. Add that on to your job(s) and it can get hairy real quick.
You really have to be prepared to put in that much time and I believe a lot of people coming into it expect not such a high workload.[/quote]
If that's what education is in your country is like (I doubt it actually is), the only right course of action is to emigrate immediately. There is no reason for people not to come into it expecting "not such a high workload", because anything other than "not such a high workload" is completely ridiculous.
I can't even imagine 65 hours of classes a week, maybe he meant class+ homework?
i used to have problems with it but like I started going to the gym and it kind of helped? im in easy college tho so its not like i try in school
do you actually like your major? I procrastinate less in the classes im interested in
also +the calendar thing
or use google keep and just set it to bug you about every little thing you're supposed to be doing 24/7
do you actually like your major? I procrastinate less in the classes im interested in
also +the calendar thing
or use google keep and just set it to bug you about every little thing you're supposed to be doing 24/7
capnfapn Many of the teachers ive had growing up have suggested that I might have ADD which I resonded to by saying that I just wasn't trying hard enough and didn't want any excuses
If you find out it's ADD, then prescriptions like adderall or Ritalin can help a lot. My brother and I both have ADD and take Ritalin daily to help us stay focused in school and on homework.
If you find out it's ADD, then prescriptions like adderall or Ritalin can help a lot. My brother and I both have ADD and take Ritalin daily to help us stay focused in school and on homework.
that's classes+hw.
if u couldnt guess that then you shouldnt be in school
if u couldnt guess that then you shouldnt be in school
squidthe301stspartanHellbentA friend of mine with ADD that is doing a double major in physics/compsci taking 6 classes (~80hours/week) so I would say that might not be a factor if you really want to do well. He does do his midterms and finals in another place that gives him more time to do it because of his ADD, so maybe you could do that to get some extra time on exams.
One of the biggest things to realize is exactly how much work you have to put in. At my uni at least, to be able to grad with a bachelors with just 1 major in 4 years requires you to take ~65hours/week of classes in half of the semesters. To put that more into perspective, that's roughly 8 hours/day 7 days a week. Add that on to your job(s) and it can get hairy real quick.
You really have to be prepared to put in that much time and I believe a lot of people coming into it expect not such a high workload.
If that's what education is in your country is like (I doubt it actually is), the only right course of action is to emigrate immediately. There is no reason for people not to come into it expecting "not such a high workload", because anything other than "not such a high workload" is completely ridiculous.
yeah those numbers are 100% bullshit lol
edit: I can believe 65 hours of homework per week if u have crippling ADD i guess
also the most rigorous program in canada im p sure is engsci at u of t i doubt physics/compsci would come close
One of the biggest things to realize is exactly how much work you have to put in. At my uni at least, to be able to grad with a bachelors with just 1 major in 4 years requires you to take ~65hours/week of classes in half of the semesters. To put that more into perspective, that's roughly 8 hours/day 7 days a week. Add that on to your job(s) and it can get hairy real quick.
You really have to be prepared to put in that much time and I believe a lot of people coming into it expect not such a high workload.[/quote]
If that's what education is in your country is like (I doubt it actually is), the only right course of action is to emigrate immediately. There is no reason for people not to come into it expecting "not such a high workload", because anything other than "not such a high workload" is completely ridiculous.[/quote]
yeah those numbers are 100% bullshit lol[/quote]
edit: I can believe 65 hours of homework per week if u have crippling ADD i guess
also the most rigorous program in canada im p sure is engsci at u of t i doubt physics/compsci would come close
ComangliaTypically when I have foggy brain issues, or start feeling "off" or "not quite there" it's almost always mild dehydration, allergies, or poor/little sleep.
Yeah. This doesn't sound as extreme as what the OP describes, but I have to say that whenever I'm being shit at getting work done, I just drink a couple glasses of water. I'm nearly always dehydrated, as I don't make time for drinking. Or eating. But the drinking is more of the issue. If you're feeling inefficient, check if you're drinking enough. It does wonders if that's actually the problem. Because dehydration can fuck you over.
Yeah. This doesn't sound as extreme as what the OP describes, but I have to say that whenever I'm being shit at getting work done, I just drink a couple glasses of water. I'm nearly always dehydrated, as I don't make time for drinking. Or eating. But the drinking is more of the issue. If you're feeling inefficient, check if you're drinking enough. It does wonders if that's actually the problem. Because dehydration can fuck you over.
namassinHuggesYour symptoms very much remind me of a person addicted to fapping, like your name suggests. Try not fapping for a while and watch your problems go away. Check out reddit.com/r/nofap for more info, and thank me later.
honestly dude, not the time nor the place.
lol honestly I checked out /r/nofap not too long ago to see what the buzz was all about.
Changing my major might help and its something i'm currently looking into. I have no idea why I'm trying to do anything programming related when thats not where my skills are and I know its something I think I enjoy more than I actually do. Maybe something like idk marketing would be better suited for me.
and once again thank you, everybody.
honestly dude, not the time nor the place.[/quote]
lol honestly I checked out /r/nofap not too long ago to see what the buzz was all about.
Changing my major might help and its something i'm currently looking into. I have no idea why I'm trying to do anything programming related when thats not where my skills are and I know its something I think I enjoy more than I actually do. Maybe something like idk marketing would be better suited for me.
and once again thank you, everybody.